I took an unintentionally long break from Substack because I turned 40 in May and it rocked me emotionally - in some ways that I saw coming, and some that I didn’t.
Was mich an deinen Notizen nicht loslässt: Wir regulieren Dopamin nach Bedarf. Runter beim Essen, hoch beim Sex. Als wäre Begehren ein Schalter, den man umlegen kann. Aber Begehren braucht Spannung, Ungewissheit, manchmal Unbehagen. Wenn wir das chemisch glätten, bleibt vielleicht die Funktion. Aber verschwindet das Verlangen selbst?
Yes that’s exactly right! We’re so desperate for certainty and control. And things performing a certain way at the exact time we want them too. But desire lives in the risk, the unknown, the tension. As you say.
We are in the same life stages Sara. I have some issues with Esther Perel but some of her stuff lands. I'm scared I won't have a kid or find my person given that I just turned 39. I've learnt to embrace my monkey mind.
It's lovely across other women who've got the same challenges.
Was mich an deinen Notizen nicht loslässt: Wir regulieren Dopamin nach Bedarf. Runter beim Essen, hoch beim Sex. Als wäre Begehren ein Schalter, den man umlegen kann. Aber Begehren braucht Spannung, Ungewissheit, manchmal Unbehagen. Wenn wir das chemisch glätten, bleibt vielleicht die Funktion. Aber verschwindet das Verlangen selbst?
Yes that’s exactly right! We’re so desperate for certainty and control. And things performing a certain way at the exact time we want them too. But desire lives in the risk, the unknown, the tension. As you say.
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She’s back and we love that for her (and us)
Little chumba wumba knock down action. But she’s back
We are in the same life stages Sara. I have some issues with Esther Perel but some of her stuff lands. I'm scared I won't have a kid or find my person given that I just turned 39. I've learnt to embrace my monkey mind.
It's lovely across other women who've got the same challenges.
Ash